You’d be surprised how easy it is to leave a soldier on deployment. You can do it with a letter. (He can’t argue with you. He doesn’t have a phone.) If you lay the groundwork early, saying to the soldier before he leaves, “This will be the end of us, we might as well admit it,” it’s that much easier. The letter won’t even come as a shock.
And if you have children with that soldier? You can handle all that with a letter, too. He’ll write it — because he cares about the kids, because he wants to work with you to do what’s best for them even though you’re leaving him — and you’ll give it to them. Here again, you will avoid a nasty confrontation. Who will they cry to? You? You’re just the teary-eyed bearer of the letter. Him? The one who’s sweating it out in the desert?
There will be no moving truck, no boxes, no house torn asunder. The soldier is peeing in a bucket as you pack. He doesn’t care who gets the couch.
Read the rest if you have the stomach for it, but it only gets worse.
Obviously the guy was better off after she left him, although it may have taken him a while to realize it (or not, he may have been doing the “Happy, Happy, Joy, Joy” dance during mail call). Either way, how could he not be? Just reading her words make me feel dirty and I cannot imagine how distasteful it would be just knowing her, much less being married to her.
Now I know she’s not the only bad military spouse out there. Military marriages are not easy. It takes a special woman, and more and more often, a special man, to stay with a Soldier, Sailor, Coast Guardsman, Airman, or Marine, through the stress of long separations, frequent moves, and almost constant worry about he safety of their loved one. But fortunately the great men and women who are willing to take on the joyous responsibility of supporting a military member far outnumber those who are not. There’s a thousand good ones for every bad one.
And thank God for that because without them we wouldn’t have the fine military we have today.
Hat-tip to Hot Air where the woman’s article is analyzed by a real military spouse.